You all must have definitely heard this most annoying, mythical, popular and a cliche phrase. It goes this way, “my life, my rules”. When I said mythical, believe me, it’s true. How many of us are actually living our own life, where judgements of others doesn’t matter to us in any way? None! And I am not different from others.
I was always comfortable in my own skin and body before people made me realise that I have to lose some weight. Maybe, they were right. But their reasons were not enough to convince a person like me, strong-headed and straightforward. Their reasons were equally funny like, my belly is unusually big and girls don’t look with stomach fat.
Some said that in order to appear beautiful, I have to lose some weight. I don’t know what made me believe everyone but finally I was convinced. I was convinced that belly fat made me look ugly. I desperately started losing weight with exercises and my limits were crossed when I began to consume less food.
No, I was not starving myself but still I had lessen my intake against the wishes of my own body. I started cursing myself for being carrying a pot belly and not fitting into clothes I felt would make me look perfect. But slowly, I began to have a certain feeling that I was not at all happy with what I was doing.
I questioned myself. WAS I LOSING WEIGHT BECAUSE OTHERS FEEL SO? OR WAS I LOSING WEIGHT THINKING ABOUT THE NEGATIVE HEALTH EFFECTS IN FUTURE?
I had my answer and quickly jumped into reality. I sensed shame and embarrassment on my own self to have fallen prey to non-sense judgements of people who I don’t even know.
So I finally decided that, I cannot let others define my beauty. I won’t let other people to make me feel unwanted and unworthy. There’s no such thing called a ‘perfect body’ and no one has the right to decide what’s best for my body. That’s when I decided to stop giving a damn!
You must be thinking that, I’ve stopped exercising. No, I’ve not. Earlier, I used to work-out for other people out there who have already forgotten what the told me and now are doing fine in their own lives. Now, I exercise for me. Not because I want to lose weight to have that slender and slim figure. But, I prefer to have a healthy body in present and future.
I want everyone to know that you are unique and beautiful in your own way. You are not defined by your body size but by your dreams, goals, ambitions, character, honesty and these should actually matter.
Remember, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!
PS: I was greatly inspired by the TED talk featuring supermodel Ashley Graham.